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It can be very difficult to catch a cheating spouse, and cheating spouses take advantage of this. Infidelity is likely to be one of the most painful and devastating things that can happen to you. Not knowing if your spouse is cheating on you or not is equally as painful. Infidelity can exist in your home and you can be its victim. Infidelity is an extremely traumatic experience that often times causes one's life to come to a complete standstill. Infidelity spurs 50% of couples who experience it to reassess their marriages and make changes. The possibility that our spouse will cheat is rarely considered, much less what to do if cheating occurs.

Surveys estimate that up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to cheating and infidelity. At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind. Some engaged in infidelity because they are lonely, others because they want to escape the monotony of marriage. And if a cheating spouse detects suspicion, he/she will adjust his/her behavior to better hide and conceal the infidelity. A great deal of energy is expended by cheating spouses and those involved in infidelity to keep their affair hidden.

Here are some little known facts about infidelity and cheating:

The Kinsey Report showed that by the age 40, 26% of married men had had an extramarital affair.

Fewer than 10% of people having affairs divorce their spouse and marry their lover (of which 75% of these marriages end in divorce).

The Hite Report on Male Sexuality of 1980 found that 72% of men married two years or more had had an extramarital affair.

Approximately 15% of women and 25% of men have more than four affairs during their married lives.

70% of MARRIED WOMEN do not know about their spouses' infidelity.

54% of MARRIED MEN do not know about their spouses' cheating.

50% of MEN who feel they have a cheating spouse ARE correct.

One-third of divorce litigation is caused by infidelity.

Unfortunately, once someone seriously suspects infidelity, more often than not, their suspicions are correct. Women are not nearly as inclined to engage in infidelity purely for the sexual gratification. There have many cases of a wife cheating on her husband as revenge for his infidelity or believed infidelity.

Signs Your Spouse is Cheating

Signs of a cheating spouse can sometimes be easy to spot, but not always. Spouses not only exploit their partner's desire to trust, there are few hard and fast signs of infidelity. Here are a few things to watch for if you suspect your partner is cheating:

Cheating husband comes home with lipstick on his collar and says a colleague accidentally bumped into him.

Cheating husband comes home late and you feel like "being romantic" and he tells you he has a headache.

Cheating wife starts acting like a teenager who has a crush on the quarterback.

Cheating wife says that she loves you, but doesn't act like it.

Cheating spouses might lose their interest in everyday activities like taking kids to school or spending time with them, taking care of the garden etc.

Your spouse has unexplained credit card charges on their credit card account.

Your spouse becomes more attentive to his/her personal appearance.

You noticed perfume odors on your cheating husband's clothes.

Your cheating spouse whispers on the phone.

Cheating spouses may demand more or less sex.

Cheating spouses begin to appear distant and irritable.

Cheating spouses suddenly develop uncharacteristic interests.

Cheating spouses usually make/receive a lot of calls using their cell phone.

If you checked even one of these signs of a cheating spouse, your marriage may be suffering some degree of infidelity. You've probably bent over backwards to save this marriage, made excuses for your spouse's behavior and tried to look the other way. If your marriage is being damaged by a cheating spouse, there are ways you two can recover from that infidelity. It's most likely the case that the cheating spouse was unhappy with the marriage and thus distracted him or herself with the affair. The more honest you can be with yourselves and each other, the greater chance you'll have at reestablishing trust and commitment in your marriage.

So, how can you catch a cheating spouse?

Catching a cheating spouse or "significant other" requires objective thinking, and a cheating spouse's worst fear is getting caught. A cheating spouse will almost never admit to infidelity, unless presented with evidence to the contrary. Despite these problems, there are several practical methods for catching a cheating spouse. To move on with your life, you must deal with the nightmare of suspicion and doubt caused by the infidelity of a cheating spouse.

So unless you are absolutely certain that your partner is not having an affair, please visit http://www.sammaddox.com/cheater.htm to find out how to deal with your cheating partner.

A future without infidelity begins here.

So hold your head up high and good luck to you as you confront your cheating spouse!

Sam Maddox is a freelance photographer and writer. For more information on infidelity, visit http://www.sammaddox.com/cheater.htm